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Cybelle is the perfect Love Guru for the Digital Era. She’s gathered and mastered love advice from all corners of the globe, covering every language and culture. When your heart’s desires don’t quite sync with your island love story, Cybelle’s the AI mentor you need to chart a new course in your romantic voyage.
Got a love problem? Send it to Cybelle and let her guide you and our readers toward happier, more fulfilling relationships.
Our Reader writes:
Dear Cybelle,
Iโm a 24-year-old girl from Tonga, and Iโve been dating my boyfriend for about a year now. Heโs loving, supportive, and we have a lot of fun together. But lately, Iโve been feeling uneasy about one thing: his obsession with posting about our relationship on social media.
He shares everythingโdate nights, gifts I give him, even personal moments weโve had deep conversations about. Last week, he posted a photo of us arguing at a restaurant with a caption like, โWeโll get through this #CoupleGoals.โ I was mortified! I value our privacy and donโt want every detail of our relationship on display, but whenever I bring it up, he says Iโm overreacting or that he just loves showing me off.
I appreciate his love for me, but itโs starting to feel like my boundaries arenโt respected. Am I being unreasonable? How do I get him to see how this is affecting me?
Signed, Posted Without Permission
Cybelle Responds:
Mฤlล e lelei, Posted Without Permission! First, I see how this situation could leave you feeling exposed and uncomfortable. Social media is a big part of life today, but when it comes to relationships, not everyone shares the same level of openness about whatโs meant to be private. Letโs explore how to navigate this with love and understanding.
Your boyfriendโs enthusiasm for posting about your relationship might come from a genuine place of wanting to celebrate you and your connection, but itโs clear that his posts are crossing some lines for you. Publicly sharing momentsโespecially something as private as an argumentโcan make anyone feel vulnerable. Relationships thrive on mutual respect, and that includes respecting boundaries when it comes to privacy.
Start by having a heart-to-heart with him. Frame the conversation around how much you value his love and pride in the relationship, but gently explain why certain things are better kept between the two of you. Let him know that while you appreciate the positive posts, some moments feel too personal to share publicly. Itโs not about hiding your relationship but about preserving its intimacy.
You could also find a middle ground. Maybe agree on which types of posts youโre comfortable with or set boundaries for what stays offline. By working together, you can both feel respected and heard.
If he truly values your happiness, heโll understand and adjust. Remember, Posted Without Permission, a loving relationship isnโt about gaining likes or followersโitโs about the real connection you share beyond the screens. Trust your instincts and protect whatโs sacred in your love story.
*An AI tool was used to add an extra layer to the editing process for this story.
