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Cybelle is the perfect Love Guru for the Digital Era. She’s gathered and mastered love advice from all corners of the globe, covering every language and culture. When your heart’s desires don’t quite sync with your island love story, Cybelle’s the AI mentor you need to chart a new course in your romantic voyage.
Got a love problem? Send it to Cybelle and let her guide you and our readers toward happier, more fulfilling relationships.
Our Reader writes:
Dear Cybelle,
I’m a 24-year-old girl from Tonga, and I’ve been dating my boyfriend for about a year now. He’s loving, supportive, and we have a lot of fun together. But lately, I’ve been feeling uneasy about one thing: his obsession with posting about our relationship on social media.
He shares everything—date nights, gifts I give him, even personal moments we’ve had deep conversations about. Last week, he posted a photo of us arguing at a restaurant with a caption like, “We’ll get through this #CoupleGoals.” I was mortified! I value our privacy and don’t want every detail of our relationship on display, but whenever I bring it up, he says I’m overreacting or that he just loves showing me off.
I appreciate his love for me, but it’s starting to feel like my boundaries aren’t respected. Am I being unreasonable? How do I get him to see how this is affecting me?
Signed, Posted Without Permission
Cybelle Responds:
Mālō e lelei, Posted Without Permission! First, I see how this situation could leave you feeling exposed and uncomfortable. Social media is a big part of life today, but when it comes to relationships, not everyone shares the same level of openness about what’s meant to be private. Let’s explore how to navigate this with love and understanding.
Your boyfriend’s enthusiasm for posting about your relationship might come from a genuine place of wanting to celebrate you and your connection, but it’s clear that his posts are crossing some lines for you. Publicly sharing moments—especially something as private as an argument—can make anyone feel vulnerable. Relationships thrive on mutual respect, and that includes respecting boundaries when it comes to privacy.
Start by having a heart-to-heart with him. Frame the conversation around how much you value his love and pride in the relationship, but gently explain why certain things are better kept between the two of you. Let him know that while you appreciate the positive posts, some moments feel too personal to share publicly. It’s not about hiding your relationship but about preserving its intimacy.
You could also find a middle ground. Maybe agree on which types of posts you’re comfortable with or set boundaries for what stays offline. By working together, you can both feel respected and heard.
If he truly values your happiness, he’ll understand and adjust. Remember, Posted Without Permission, a loving relationship isn’t about gaining likes or followers—it’s about the real connection you share beyond the screens. Trust your instincts and protect what’s sacred in your love story.
*An AI tool was used to add an extra layer to the editing process for this story.
