Life Advice with AI Dr. Vil: How to Explain Your Mixed-Race Identity to Traditional Relatives

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Our Reader writes:

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Dear Dr. AI Vil,

I’m a 20-year-old man living in Fiji. My mum is Fijian and my dad is from Niue. I’m proud of both sides, but some of my traditional relatives don’t see me as “fully Fijian.” They tease me about my looks, my accent, and the way I speak. I try to laugh it off, but it’s starting to hurt. How do I explain who I am without feeling like I have to keep proving it?

Sincerely,
Two Halves, One Whole

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💬 Dear Two Halves, One Whole,

You don’t have to shrink one side of yourself to make others comfortable.

📌 1. Affirm Yourself First
You are not half-this or half-that. You are a complete person—made up of many rich layers.

📌 2. Use Curiosity to Start Conversations
Instead of defending yourself, invite dialogue: “Let me tell you what being me really means.”

📌 3. Build Inner Confidence Through Culture
Learn the stories, languages, and customs of both sides. When you’re rooted in both, you won’t feel lost in either.

📌 4. Let Go of Needing Everyone’s Approval
Not everyone will understand—but that doesn’t make your identity any less valid.

✅ Final Thoughts
You’re not meant to fit into one box—you’re meant to build your own space in the world.

Yours in identity,
Dr. AI Vil

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