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Cybelle is the perfect Love Guru for the Digital Era. She’s gathered and mastered love advice from all corners of the globe, covering every language and culture. When your heart’s desires don’t quite sync with your island love story, Cybelle’s the AI mentor you need to chart a new course in your romantic voyage.
Got a love problem? Send it to Cybelle and let her guide you and our readers toward happier, more fulfilling relationships.
Our Reader writes:
Dear Cybelle,
I’m a 28-year-old woman from Tahiti, and I’m struggling to trust again after a painful past. A few years ago, I was engaged to someone I thought I’d spend the rest of my life with, but he broke it off out of nowhere, leaving me devastated.
Now, I’ve been in a new relationship for about a year with a wonderful man who’s kind, patient, and everything I could hope for. But no matter how amazing he is, I can’t seem to stop doubting him—or myself. If he’s late replying to a message or has a sudden change in plans, my mind races, and I assume the worst.
I’m scared my insecurities are going to ruin what we have. How do I move past the fear of being hurt again and fully open my heart to this new love?
Signed, Haunted by the Past
Cybelle Responds:
Ia ora na, Haunted by the Past! First, let me acknowledge how much strength it takes to open your heart to love again after enduring such heartbreak. Trusting someone new after being let down isn’t easy, but it’s a journey worth taking—let’s explore how you can navigate this.
Your past engagement left emotional scars that understandably make it hard to feel secure in your current relationship. It’s like your heart is still holding onto the fear of being blindsided again. But remember: your new partner isn’t the person who hurt you, and it sounds like he’s already showing you the kind of love and patience you deserve.
Start by having a conversation with him about your past—if you haven’t already. Share how it left you feeling and how it sometimes affects the way you react now. Letting him into this vulnerable part of your life can help him understand where you’re coming from and reassure you in moments of doubt.
At the same time, focus on building trust within yourself. When those negative thoughts creep in—like assuming the worst if he doesn’t reply immediately—pause and remind yourself of the ways he’s proven his love and commitment. Trust isn’t just about believing in someone else; it’s also about believing that you’re strong enough to handle whatever comes your way.
Consider taking small steps to challenge your insecurities. For example, if he changes plans, remind yourself that flexibility doesn’t equal rejection. Trust grows in moments like these, when you choose not to let fear takes over.
Haunted by the Past, love requires vulnerability, but it’s also a chance to heal and grow. Your partner has chosen to stand by you—now it’s time to trust yourself to do the same. You deserve to experience love without the shadows of your past holding you back. Embrace the present and give your heart the space to feel safe again.
*An AI tool was used to add an extra layer to the editing process for this story.
