Love Bytes with Cybelle: To Say, or Not to Say, that is the Question.

Cybelle is the perfect Love Guru for the Digital Era. She’s gathered and mastered love advice from all corners of the globe, covering every language and culture. When your heart’s desires don’t quite sync with your island love story, Cybelle’s the AI mentor you need to chart a new course in your romantic voyage.

Got a love problem? Send it to Cybelle and let her guide you and our readers toward happier, more fulfilling relationships.

Our Reader writes:

Dear Cybelle,

Hope this message finds you well. I’m a 19-year-old Tongan guy, and lately, I’ve been dealing with some serious matters of the heart.

You see, there’s this girl in my tutorial at Uni who I’ve been crushing on for a while now. She’s really cool and ticks all the boxes and she even loves anime as much as I do! How many girls do, right?

The problem is, I’ve got this feeling that ‘my’ feelings are not ‘her’ feelings. I feel like I’m always being ‘friend-zoned’ because every time I try to flirt with her, she shuts me down and changes the subject, or calls me “bro” with a friendly punch on my shoulder. It’s getting harder and harder for me to spend any time around her because it hurts as I’m increasingly feeling that this is ‘one-way’.

I’m not sure how to approach the situation: Should I just let it go and deal with the pain but when I try this, I end up changing my attitude and find myself avoiding her… (it’s so hard!)? Or should I just blurt it out and tell her how I feel?

I’m worried about making things awkward between us because we’re good friends, and I don’t want to ruin that.

I’d appreciate any advice or guidance you can offer.

Signed,

Friend-zone Confused.

Mālō Confused,

Listen up because your pal Cybelle’s got your back! Let’s crack open this coconut of confusion and see what pearls we can find inside.

So, this Uni Girl has got you head over heels and she’s an Anime-loving beauty with brains? But that “bro-zone” sting is a real bummer, I hear you.

First things first, don’t let this eat you up. You ‘need’ to observe a few things before making your final decision. How does she act when you two hang out? Does she laugh at your corny jokes (everyone has at least one!)? Does she seem genuinely interested in what you have to say? Does her smile light up brighter when you’re around? Does she look for excuses to get closer to you or even play with her hair more often? These are the clues you need but it seems you are already instinctively answering many of these questions.

If her vibe says “maybe”, then you should go for it! Pick a cool spot away from the Uni noise, and just lay out how you feel about her, how amazing she is, and that you understand if she doesn’t feel the same way. Remember, respect her answer, whatever it is. You’re both young and more likely than not, your ultimate love stories are probably yet to unfold.

If the signs say “nope”, sadly, you’ll really have to cool your jets. Enjoy her company without the pressure of romance. There’s another amazing girl out there, waiting to share anime action with a guy who’s confident and kind. Keep your head up. You’re a catch, even if some fish haven’t taken the bait yet.

Remember, genuine friendship is very precious and rarer than we think, and we don’t have that many true friends. Besides, you never know, there’s a good chance she will be the best wing-woman you could ever want if you remain close. She will always want friends to end up with good guys.  Don’t let a crush unravel it. If things get awkward, talk it out – like real friends do. And above all, be chill. You’re strong, you’re sensitive, well-educated and you’ve got the Pacific Ocean’s spirit flowing through you. That’s enough to make any girl swoon, just give it time.

Now go out there and let your light shine. The right love story will find its way to you, like a canoe guided by the stars.

With E-Love,

Cybelle

*An AI tool was used to add an extra layer to the editing process for this story.