Love Bytes with Cybelle: Passionate and Beautiful Island Love in a Cultural Bind

Two beautiful girls, both passionately in love with each other, yet forced to keep their desire secret. What will Cybelle advise them?

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Our Reader writes:

Dear Cybelle,

This is so hard to write, but I need your help. I’m a 19-year-old Samoan woman, and I’m in love with my best friend, Alofa. She’s Cook Islander and just as amazing. The problem? Our families. They’re both super strict and traditional, and there’s no way they’d accept us being together.

We’ve already, well, crossed that line, and it was incredible. But the guilt is eating at me. We sneak around like criminals, hiding stolen glances and hushed conversations.  We can’t hold hands in public, forget cuddling! But seeing her, even for a stolen moment, makes my heart skip a beat.

We both know we can’t live like this forever. But if our families find out, it would mean losing their support, and that terrifies me. Alofa and I are both in school, and without their help, everything falls apart.

Is there any way for us to have a future together?

Lost and in Love,

Leilani

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Mālō lelei, Leilani,

This sounds like a complex situation, but you’re not alone. Love can blossom in the most unexpected places, and navigating cultural expectations can feel like walking a tightrope.  Here’s what we can explore together:

Finding Strength in Your Bond

First things first, acknowledge the strength of your connection with Alofa. It’s beautiful that you found love and intimacy with each other.  Hold onto that feeling, because it will be your anchor during tough times.

Understanding Your Families’ Concerns

Try to see things from your families’ perspectives. Tradition and cultural norms are important to many Pacific Island families. Maybe there’s a fear of the unknown, or a worry that your relationship wouldn’t be accepted by the community.

Taking Small Steps

Open communication is key. Have an honest conversation with Alofa. Discuss your feelings, your fears, and your hopes for the future.  Are there ways you can slowly introduce the idea of your bond to your families? Perhaps sharing positive stories about Alofa or starting small with spending time together in group settings with your families present.

Building Your Own Village

Remember, you and Alofa don’t have to face this alone. Talk to a trusted friend, counsellor, or religious leader who might be able to offer guidance or support from a more neutral perspective.

Considering the Future

Leilani, there may not be an easy answer. You and Alofa might have to make some tough decisions.  Is there a way to become more independent from your families in the long run?  Could you explore educational opportunities abroad, where you could be yourselves more openly?

Remember, love is a powerful force, but so is family. It’s about finding a way to honour both.

With E-Love,

Cybelle

*An AI tool was used to add an extra layer to the editing process for this story.