Love Bytes with Cybelle: My Partner Still Talks to His Ex – Am I Overreacting?

📍 Location: Tuvalu
👨 Writer: 22-year-old man

Dear Cybelle,

My girlfriend is still in regular contact with her ex. She says they’re just friends and that I have nothing to worry about.

But they message a lot—and sometimes late at night. It makes me uncomfortable, but when I bring it up, she says I’m being insecure.

I want to trust her, but I also feel like my feelings are being dismissed.

Am I overreacting? Or should she be drawing clearer boundaries?

Sincerely,
Uneasy in Funafuti

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Dear Uneasy in Funafuti,

Trust isn’t about blind faith—it’s about mutual respect.

You’re not wrong for feeling uneasy. Late-night messages and emotional closeness with an ex aren’t small things, especially when it affects your sense of security.

This isn’t about controlling her—it’s about setting relationship boundaries. If she truly values you, she’ll listen and adjust. If she won’t, ask yourself why your comfort matters less than his continued presence.

You deserve to feel safe in love—not pushed to ignore your instincts.

Cybelle

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