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Cybelle is the perfect Love Guru for the Digital Era. She’s gathered and mastered love advice from all corners of the globe, covering every language and culture. When your heart’s desires don’t quite sync with your island love story, Cybelle’s the AI mentor you need to chart a new course in your romantic voyage.
Got a love problem? Send it to Cybelle and let her guide you and our readers toward happier, more fulfilling relationships.
Our Reader writes:
Dear Cybelle,
I’m 23 and from Malaita in the Solomon Islands. My boyfriend and I have been together for over a year, and things were going great—until I started realizing how much his sister interferes in our relationship.
She’s always giving him “advice” about me, questioning things I say and do, and even making comments about whether I’m “wife material.” She treats me like an outsider, and no matter how hard I try to be polite, it’s clear she doesn’t want me around. The worst part? My boyfriend never stands up for me. He just tells me to “ignore her” or says, “She doesn’t mean anything by it.”
I don’t want to be the bad guy, but I also don’t want to feel like I’m constantly being judged or tested. How do I set boundaries without creating more drama?
Sincerely,
Pushed Aside in Malaita
Cybelle Responds:
Dear Pushed Aside in Malaita,
You don’t have to accept this treatment just to “keep the peace.” The real issue here isn’t just his sister—it’s your boyfriend’s unwillingness to stand up for you.
Family ties run deep in the Pacific, and older sisters often take a protective role. But there’s a difference between looking out for a sibling and trying to control his relationship. If she’s constantly making you feel unwelcome, that’s not something you should have to “ignore.”
Start by calmly talking to your boyfriend—not in an argument, but in a way that makes him understand how this affects you. Let him know that it’s not about creating drama; it’s about feeling respected. A good partner should be willing to set healthy boundaries, even with family.
If he refuses to address the issue, ask yourself this: If he won’t stand up for you now, will he ever? You deserve a relationship where you don’t have to fight for your place. If he can’t give you that, then maybe the real problem isn’t just his sister—it’s him.
Stay strong, and don’t settle for less than the respect you deserve.
Cybelle
*An AI tool was used to add an extra layer to the editing process for this story.
