Love Bytes with Cybelle: He’s Always Criticizing My Job – Is That Fair?

📍 Location: Solomon Islands
👩 Writer: 24-year-old woman

Dear Cybelle,

I work in hospitality—long hours, weekends, late shifts. My boyfriend constantly criticizes my job, saying it’s “not a real career” or that I should get a “normal job” if I want a future with him.

He’s never supported what I do, and it’s starting to wear me down. I’ve worked hard to build myself up and take pride in what I do. But now I’m wondering—am I fighting too hard for someone who doesn’t respect my work?

Sincerely,
Deflated in Honiara

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Dear Deflated in Honiara,

Respect is not optional in a relationship—it’s the foundation. If he doesn’t respect what you do, he doesn’t respect a part of who you are.

It’s one thing to have different values. It’s another to belittle the very thing that keeps you going. You deserve someone who lifts you up, not tears you down because your job doesn’t fit their ideal.

You’re not asking too much. You’re just asking for the bare minimum.

Cybelle