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Cybelle is the perfect Love Guru for the Digital Era. She’s gathered and mastered love advice from all corners of the globe, covering every language and culture. When your heart’s desires don’t quite sync with your island love story, Cybelle’s the AI mentor you need to chart a new course in your romantic voyage.
Got a love problem? Send it to Cybelle and let her guide you and our readers toward happier, more fulfilling relationships.
Dear Cybelle,
I’ve been dating my boyfriend for almost a year here in the Cook Islands. He works in mid-management for a government department, while I’m a housekeeper at a local resort. We get along so well, and I truly love him, but there’s something that’s starting to bother me. He never invites me to family gatherings.
His family is well-known and respected, and I’ve only met a couple of his cousins briefly. When I ask him about meeting his parents or going to family events, he always changes the subject or says it’s “not the right time.” I can’t help but feel like he’s ashamed of me because of my job or my background.
I try to brush it off, but it hurts. Am I overthinking this, or is this a red flag I need to pay attention to?
Sincerely,
Left Out in Rarotonga
Cybelle Responds:
Dear Left Out in Rarotonga,
Thank you for opening up about your situation—it’s never easy to feel excluded, especially in a relationship you’ve invested your heart in. First, let me say this: your worth isn’t defined by your job or background, and anyone who truly loves you should be proud to have you in their life.
That said, let’s explore a few possibilities here. Tane may not be intentionally trying to hurt you. Sometimes, people have complicated family dynamics or unspoken pressures that make them hesitant to introduce a partner—especially in tight-knit communities like the Cook Islands, where family opinions can carry significant weight.
However, it’s also possible that he’s unsure about where your relationship is heading and is holding back from introducing you to avoid questions or pressure from his family. While it’s natural to want to protect a new relationship, a year together is long enough to expect some form of acknowledgment.
The best thing you can do is have an open, honest conversation with him. Choose a time when you’re both calm and not rushed. Let him know how much you care for him and how it makes you feel when he avoids including you in his family life. Be direct but kind—ask him if there’s a specific reason he’s hesitant.
Pay close attention to his response. Does he dismiss your feelings, or does he genuinely explain his perspective? Someone who loves you will take your concerns seriously and work with you to find a solution.
If he brushes you off or refuses to address the issue, it’s worth asking yourself whether this relationship is as equal and respectful as it should be. A healthy partnership includes mutual pride and support—he should want to show the world (and his family) how much he values you.
You deserve someone who sees all the beauty you bring into their life and isn’t afraid to show it. Don’t settle for less, Left Out.
Sending you strength and clarity,
Cybelle
*An AI tool was used to add an extra layer to the editing process for this story.
