Love Bytes with Cybelle: He Wants Me to Move for His Career, But What About Mine?

📍 Location: Fiji
👩 Writer: 25-year-old woman

Dear Cybelle,

My partner was just offered a great job in another town, and he wants me to move with him. The problem is, I just started building my own career here. I love my job, and I’m finally feeling settled.

He says we can make it work together, but it feels like I’m the one who has to sacrifice everything to make this move happen. Is it fair for one person’s dreams to take priority over the other’s?

Sincerely,
Pulled in Two in Lautoka

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Dear Pulled in Two in Lautoka,

Love involves compromise—but never at the cost of your identity. If his career matters, so does yours. And if this relationship is meant to last, the decision has to be mutual, not a one-way sacrifice.

It’s not about who moves—it’s about whether you’re moving forward together. If your dreams are always the ones put on hold, it’s time to ask why.

Cybelle